Know and Model What You Want
Learn and Teach Positive Values and Behaviors (Character Skills) (Belief
Windows and Control Systems)
Have Continued Common Goals.
Change the Environment for Positive Results.
Use alternative learning conditions or ways of doing things Ė even
arrangement of furniture
Make Sure each Person Has Good Friends and a Productive and Satisfying
Use the Growth Equation: Care + Conflict = Growth.
ďLove your neighbor as you love yourself.Ē Establish that each person each time is to be treated with
dignity and respect
Make Positive Deposits in Each Otherís Self-Esteem.
Honestly Recognize and Admire Each Other at His or Her Best.
Notice and Label What You Want with Target Talk.
Use the Power of Positive Expectations and Use of the Reciprocal.
Act toward the other person as if he or she Ö
Recognize the Power of Conditioning.
(Attention, Significance, and Effect on the Environment)
Use Natural or Logical Consequences.
Do a Behavior Analysis. Watch
for patterns and rewards. No right
to hinder others.
Give and Protect the Other Person a Desirable Reputation.
Give the Other Person a Chance to Do It Right. Avoid Freezing a Person in His or Her Undesirable Habits.
Be Open About Your Own Mistakes Before Talking About the Other Personís
Mistakes. Protect Self-Esteem by
Recognizing Good Intentions. Ask
for the Behavior You Need Without Indicating Intentional Wrongdoing.
Use the Power of Positive Practice.
The development of habits. Use
the Power of Investment. ďWhere
your treasure is ÖĒ
Use Win/Win problem solving (Care Cards)
Ask Questions and Offer Suggestions Instead of Giving Orders.
Make the Other Person Happy About Doing What is Needed
Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct and the Next Step Easy to Take.
Look For and Recognize Even Small Improvements.